טוב לכת אל בית אבל מלכת אל בית משתה
It is better to go to the home a mourner than to attend a wedding. These are the words of Kohelet (Ecclesiastes).
I am not entirely sure as to the point of this quote. My colleagues have commented from time to time that the house of a mourner tends to have better behaviour than do weddings. I have seen some lousy behaviour in houses of mourning. I am not entirely sure that their experience is entirely relevant.
That being said, the life of a rabbi tends to have many trips to the cemetery. it does not have as many weddings.
I am pleased to say though that I have conducted three weddings over the last two months. I have also been to one post-wedding feast. That is more weddings than funerals for me. I have enjoyed it. It is wonderful to see couples with such big smiles, surrounded by people with big smiles.
Given my experience over the last two months, I must disagree with Kohelet. I have thoroughly enjoyed all of these weddings.
Have a good evening.