Saturday, January 29, 2022

Waldo?

 Good evening everyone.

As we are all painfully aware, COVID has wrought many changes in communal life.  One of those changes is that people often have had religious services outside.  Synagogues have used parking lots.  There were many backyard services as well.

We hosted several of those backyard services.  We assumed that everyone had gone home.  However, the weather has been so awful that we did not check.  Apparently, someone is still here.  If you know who this person is, please advise.

Thank you.

R/SCG



Tuesday, January 25, 2022

When Words Fail Us...

Top of the evening to all....

The director of the Jewish Welfare Board asked one of the military rabbis to write something in response to the events that took place in Texas.  I volunteered.  Below is my article.

R/SCG

-----Break-----

When Words Fail Us

            There was a time when such disturbing events took place far away.  We would read about a terrorist attack in Europe or on a subway in Japan.  We might have glanced at the article, but quickly turned to the crossword puzzle.  Even if it involved the local Jewish community, this was still elsewhere.  This did not happen in our country.  This was not the United States.  

 

            The last several years have shattered that sense of distance.  Pittsburgh, Poway, and now Texas...these are places we know.  Our friends live in these communities.  These are shuls where we might daven.  When violence takes place in our backyard, we find ourselves without words, wondering what to say.  How do we find comfort in words when circumstances leave us speechless?

 

            I have been privileged to witness reaction without words.  In December, I took part in rehearsals for Dignified Transfers at Dover Air Force Base (AFB).  When the remains of US combat deaths are repatriated, Dover AFB stands ready to honor our Soldiers, Marines, Sailors, Guardsmen, Airmen, and Guardians.   Dover AFB neither slumbers nor sleeps. 

 

            Quiet conversations on the tarmac come to an abrupt halt at the words "family in sight."   Inside the C-130, a chaplain offers a short prayer.  The carry teams lift each transfer case.  Uniformed personnel execute a slow salute, holding that salute until the transfer case is placed in the vehicle.  Throughout the transfer, those present will hear only the commands of the officer in charge.  Dignified Transfer is otherwise silent.

 

            In January, I accompanied my colleague and friend, Rabbi (Major) Steven Rein, USAF, to the funeral of a Jewish Air Force officer at Arlington National Cemetery.  Again, the absence of spoken word was striking, broken only by terse orders to the casket team during the transfer of the casket to the caisson and a muffled drum beat as the deceased is borne on this final journey.  As military honors conclude, the concussion of a rifle volley tears through that silence.  A lone bugler sounds "Taps," the gentle lament of a nation in mourning.  

 

            The aura of military ritual is gripping.  To witness Dignified Transfers and Military Honors...to hear the clipped phrasing..."family in sight..." orders to the carry team...slow salutes...walking behind the caisson...rifle volley..."Taps..." and silence.  That silence is part of the ritual.  It is as heart-rending as the bugle call.  That silence reminds us that for many situations, there are no words. 

 

            Words of solace will come only in their time.  They will have meaning only when we are able to hear them.  For now, we remember Aharon's reaction at the tragic death of two of his sons (Leviticus 10:3).  וידם אהרן - Aharon fell silent.   As we struggle to find words, as Aharon's silence is suddenly, unwillingly our own, let us remember that words often fail to capture magnitude of trauma or depth of emotion.  We hear instead the power of ritual and hopefully find comfort in the solemnity of silence. 

 

May we be comforted from the Heavens - מן השמיים ננוחם.

 

Shabbat Shalom.

 

Rav Sean Gorman

LCDR, CHC, USN

Sunday, January 16, 2022

Haven't We Been Here Before?

Good evening everyone.

We are all likely aware of the events that took place at Beth Israel in Colleyville, Texas over Shabbat.  Thank God that synagogue attendance was low due to COVID (I just love that irony) and that those present persevered and survived without physical injury.

I follow the news assiduously.  I also keep making the remarkably stupid error of reading comments after the news articles.  (Note to self: STOP!!)  In comments after one article, many people extolled the virtues of attending such events with a concealed weapon.  In and of itself, I have no issue with personal firearms.  Conceptually, even in such situations, there might be room to discuss having a weapon handy.

However, and it is a huge "however," what might seem intelligent as a concept often does not make the jump into reality.

All of the comments supporting bringing a weapon to shul mention Constitutional rights and self-defence.  The use of lethal force in self-defence requires training and preparation.  Training with a weapon is only part of the issue.  Do the folks in the pews know what to do?  When the rounds start flying, people will panic.  Some may duck.  Others may freeze.  Do we want a situation in which one of the good guys has to make a decision with a human shield as part of the equation?  Still others may hamper the good guys in a panicked rush to find safety.  Being armed will not mitigate the panic.  A weapon will not bring order to chaos.  The presence of a firearm will not level the playing field.  It is not a good idea.

What might we do instead?

Let's start with the fundamentals, beginning at the synagogue door.  In Alexandria, VA, the cost to a synagogue to have a uniformed police officer on the property is $35/hour.  In Toronto, it is $100/hour with a minimum of four hours.  With the assumption of four hours here in Virginia, the cost for 52 Saturdays would be ~$7280.00 USD.  In Toronto, it is ~$20800.00 CAD.  Even before considering synagogue policy, there is room for local government to ease the financial burden and help organizations figure out policy.

For synagogue policy, a fence around the synagogue is a solid beginning.  Keeping people off of the property limits the concerns with getting into the building.  Beyond that, it is entirely appropriate to ask people to show the contents of backpacks, purses, and diaper bags before allowing entry to the building.  A metal detector can also go far in initial security.

Synagogue websites all have COVID policies.  Policies include advance registration for services and showing proof of vaccine.  We do not blink over having to do that.  In coming to DC, I chose my hotel based in part on walking distance to a synagogue.  I checked the synagogue's COVID policy.  If the synagogue had asked for registration, I would have registered.  Okay...what is the difference between such requirements for COVID and asking for identification and registration for attendees as a matter of physical security?

The place I attended services yesterday had only one available entrance into the building.  The synagogue was able to afford police protection.  Two people were checking COVID records.  That means that anyone with nefarious intent would have had to pass three people.  Extra training for the folks checking COVID records might be in order to facilitate reaction to such intent.

In the pews, laminated cards outlined what to do in case of a bomb threat, active shooter, fire, and other emergencies (there were also instructions for what to do in the unlikely event of a water landing).  This congregation takes the security concerns seriously enough to talk about it and to communicate with the membership.

Congregations should address whether the greeters at the sanctuary door know what to do.  Immediate action on their part can buy precious seconds for others to run or hide.

Please note that in general, I agree that the physical security of the synagogue is the concern of the board, not of the bimah (pulpit).  However, when people are scared about coming to shul, that fear becomes a pastoral issue for the bimah.  As well, given that many synagogues have a panic button on the pulpit, the rabbi is a necessary part of the discussion.

The rabbi of the shul in Texas said today that they are "going to tighten security."  Without knowing what the security practices have been, deliberate thought about the security of a synagogue (or any other institution) needs to happen before an attack.  Making tomorrow's policy based on yesterday's events is too little, too late.  When the train has already left the station, running after it is an exercise in futility.

To our friends in Colleyville, we stand behind you and next to you in support as you recover from this violation.

Stay warm.  Stay dry.

R/SCG


Sunday, January 2, 2022

Not Interested....Not Remotely Interested...

 Top of the evening to all...

Apparently, a certain Congresswoman from New York is in Florida on vacation.  Good for her!  While in Florida, she has been seen twice unmasked (oh the humanity!).  The second time was at a packed bar.

At this time, I would like to remind everyone of the 614th Commandment: thou shalt not COVID thy neighbour's house.

Anyway, because the Twitter world is...well...the Twitter world, the Congresswoman in question was called for hypocrisy.  She has left her blue state, land of quarantines and masks, to go to a dreaded red state, land of sun and sand.

And again, good for her.  Everyone deserves a vacation.

Her hypocrisy was pointed out to her.  Her response: "it's starting to get old ignoring the very obvious, strange, and deranged sexual frustrations that underpin the Republican fixation on me, women, and LGBT+ people in general."  

Since her tweet was directed at those pointing out the seeming hypocrisy, let's have the conversation.  For one who is quite happy to point out sexism wherever it exists (and even where it does not), she might start by looking in the mirror.  To assume that men might disagree with her only because we want to get her into bed is misandrist.  It reduces men to little more than libidinous creatures.  If a man were to say the exact same thing, the Twitter attacks would be vicious.  They would also be correct.  

I would thus like to inform the Congresswoman in question that men have brains.  I dare say further that even conservative men have brains.  Try engaging us on that level.  Maybe we will all learn something.

In the meantime, no, I am not interested...not remotely.

Enjoy your vacation.

R/SCG